I’ve Been
Where You Are.
I understand on a visceral level the challenges high performers face in building a relationship. On paper, I had it all — a seven-figure business, good friends, hobbies. But my love life still wasn’t working.
Building a thriving relationship as a high achiever requires a fundamentally different approach, and nobody tells you that.
Before meeting my husband, I went on over 100 first dates through every major app, matchmakers, and introductions. None of it led to anything lasting beyond six months.
Four patterns were quietly working against me:
To find the right person, I had to become the right person.
The work changed everything. I cut out alcohol, committed to deep self-study, and attended a neurofeedback meditation retreat (40 Years of Zen) to transform my anxious attachment into a secure attachment style. I became resilient, confident, and securely attached — the person I was asking my future partner to show up as.
On the last day of that retreat, I had a vision of my future husband so real it propelled me to break my lease, leave my home of 12 years, and move on intuition to Scottsdale, Arizona. I planned to attend a new event every week until I met my person. The first event was run by a friend of my husband’s, who introduced us a month later.
